Opinion: Don't dictate other people's lives

And baby make three: Prince William, second left and his wife Catherine, the Duchess of Cambridge, with their children Prince George and Princess Charlotte. Picture: Christian Charisius/Pool Photo via AP, File

And baby make three: Prince William, second left and his wife Catherine, the Duchess of Cambridge, with their children Prince George and Princess Charlotte. Picture: Christian Charisius/Pool Photo via AP, File

Prepare yourselves – royal baby fever is coming.

With the news the Duchess of Cambridge is expecting her third child with Prince William, the world’s media once again went into meltdown.

Royal watchers were already smitten, baby name betting markets have already opened and speculation will once again run rampant until the birth.

It has also opened the royals up to keyboard warriors, shaming the couple for their decision to have a third child. 

It’s not an uncommon experience for parents and one I have faced as a young father. 

I am 27 and have three children. My wife and I have been married for more than five years and our daughter was born just before our first wedding anniversary. My first son was born 15 months later and our youngest boy came 21 months after that.

But we continually get comments of ‘So nothing good on TV?,’ ‘Haven’t you two heard of contraception?’ or ‘Must have been an accident, right?’.

But the answer to all of these is no. (Especially when it comes to TV – if you would rather watch TV than have sex, you are doing it wrong.)

We have also had people commenting on the fact we had a boy and a girl – so why did we try for another one? We get asked about when number four will be coming along.

People can’t seem to make up their minds as to how many children is too many.

For people living in what is supposed to be the age of sexual enlightenment, having a baby still seems to be the worst result of sex for most people.

​Don’t get me wrong, those comments generally come from a good place. It’s like we don’t have the language for talking about sex and its consequences outside of cliche. Sex has been taboo for so long that either people are incredibly open or really uncomfortable around it.

Despite being 23 when I had my first child (my wife was 22), she and her brothers were both very much wanted. I have never felt such pure joy as when my wife told me that she was pregnant with our daughter and our family didn’t feel complete until number three came along.

Whether you want one kid, 10 kids or no kids, at the end of the day, how many, when and if people have babies is no one’s business but the parents. 

  • Andrew McMurtry is a reporter for Fairfax Media in north-west Sydney. 
Andrew McMurtry is a reporter for the Blacktown Sun, Hills News, Parramatta Sun, Rouse Hill Courier and St Marys-Mount Druitt Star. Email your views and sports stories to andrew.mcmurtry@fairfaxmedia.com.au.

Andrew McMurtry is a reporter for the Blacktown Sun, Hills News, Parramatta Sun, Rouse Hill Courier and St Marys-Mount Druitt Star. Email your views and sports stories to andrew.mcmurtry@fairfaxmedia.com.au.

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