Opinion: Don't dictate other people's lives

Prepare yourselves – royal baby fever is coming.

And baby make three: Prince William, second left and his wife Catherine, the Duchess of Cambridge, with their children Prince George and Princess Charlotte. Picture: Christian Charisius/Pool Photo via AP, File

And baby make three: Prince William, second left and his wife Catherine, the Duchess of Cambridge, with their children Prince George and Princess Charlotte. Picture: Christian Charisius/Pool Photo via AP, File

With the news the Duchess of Cambridge is expecting her third child with Prince William, the world’s media has once again went into meltdown.

Royal watchers were already smitten, baby name betting markets have already opened and speculation will once again run rampant until the birth.

It has also opened the royals up to keyboard warriors, shaming the couple for their decision to have a third child. 

It’s not an uncommon experience for parents and one I have faced as a young father. 

I am 27 and have three children; my youngest is now 18-months-old. 

My wife and I have been married for more than five years and our daughter was born just before our first wedding anniversary.

My first son was born 15 months later and our youngest boy came 21 months after that.

But we continually get comments of ‘So nothing good on TV?,’ ‘Haven’t you two heard of contraception?’ or ‘Must have been an accident, right?’.

The answer to all of these is no (especially when it comes to TV – if you would rather watch TV than have sex, you’re doing it wrong).

We have also had people commenting on the fact we had a boy and a girl – so why did we try for another one?

It’s like that’s the aim for having children is having the pigeon pair (one boy and one girl) and then we’ve won parent bingo.

We also get asked about when number four will be coming along. People can’t seem to make up their minds as to how many children is too many.

For people living in what is supposed to be the age of sexual enlightenment and freedom, having a baby still seems to be the worst result of sex for most people.

​Don’t get me wrong, those comments generally come from a good place with people trying to relate to our circumstances that seems foreign in this day and age. 

But it’s like we don’t have the language for talking about sex – and its consequences – outside of the cliche. 

Sex has been taboo for so long that either people are incredibly open or really uncomfortable around it.

I was 23 when my first child was born (my wife was 22) and she and her brothers were all very much wanted.

I have never felt such joy as when my wife told me she was pregnant with our daughter, and our family didn’t feel complete until number three.

Whether you want one kid, 10 kids or no kids, at the end of the day, how many, when, and if people have babies, it’s no one’s business. 

  • Andrew McMurtry is a reporter for Fairfax Media in north-west Sydney. 
Andrew McMurtry is a reporter for the Blacktown Sun, Hills News, Parramatta Sun, Rouse Hill Courier and St Marys-Mount Druitt Star. Email your views and sports stories to andrew.mcmurtry@fairfaxmedia.com.au.

Andrew McMurtry is a reporter for the Blacktown Sun, Hills News, Parramatta Sun, Rouse Hill Courier and St Marys-Mount Druitt Star. Email your views and sports stories to andrew.mcmurtry@fairfaxmedia.com.au.

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